I’m Gonna Need You to Stop

I spent the afternoon with some girlfriends yesterday at a winery - The Quarry- (https://quarrywinegarden.com/) and while of course we had an absolute blast, I love one of the subjects that was brought up. The subject was, what age do you truly stop giving a f$@& about, well basically everything and just do you?

I ALWAYS worried about what people thought about me. Definitely in high school, that was a huge one. I think we all felt that way in high school, especially being female. There was always pressure and still is pressure on females to be a certain way in society and that makes it hard on us. I called bullshit on that a long time ago. Wear makeup, don't wear makeup. Get the tattoos, don't get the tattoos. Be fit, don't be fit. I, personally would rather eat ice cream than have a flat tummy. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We were all made differently for a reason, embrace it! Stop giving a f$@&!

When I was married, my caring what people think monitor got harder and harder to ignore. My ex husband had this picture he wanted to maintain of our family for the world and I was expected to portray that through my everyday actions as well as my posts on social media. When I told the truth about our marriage being a struggle, he told me no one needed to know that, even though I never spoke specifics. But when I painted this perfect picture, he told me I was lying, even though that's what he wanted people to think our life was. We all know how that turned out, I stopped giving a f$@&!

I used to have a really hard time not being included. I know we've all been there, like even if you KNOW you won't go, you'd like the invite to know that those people still think about you and care about you right? Somewhere along the road in life, someone that you used to do EVERYTHING with, will probably phase you out of their life at some point in time. You may not know the reason and you might still feel a sting about it every now and then and that's okay. You can continue to try to wedge your way back in like I did for awhile, but people make time for things that are important to them. So, let's just stop giving a f$@&.

My guess is, no one will be surprised by what I'm about to say next. I care less and less about trying to impress these so called men that want my time. I mean, DO they even want my time though? We aren't camp pen pals, nor is one of us in a different country, so why all the texting? You can't get to know the REAL of a person until you're around them, and more than just 2 hours ideally. Did you know, that on average, it takes about 3 months to truly know someone? Three months to decide whether you truly want to have any type of long-term relationship with someone. So when someone tells you after 1-2 dates that you should go your separate ways for whatever bullshit reason, it's them love, not you. Stop giving a f$@&!

The moral of my story here is, you should never care what people think. Sure, they'll give their opinions and you can let them, but it should never sway anything you do. People will judge you, whether to your face or behind your back, but it should never deter you from being uniquely you. People will tell you reason after reason why they can't make time for you, but don't let that stop you from making time for yourself. People will claim you're too much, too loud, too whatever, but DO NOT let that stop you from being authentically you. Please, do you, be your beautiful selves, enjoy life and just stop giving a f$@&, I promise you'll be much happier.