Liar, Liar

According to this article I found on Google;

‘The time it takes to get to know someone can vary depending on your intentions and how often you talk to them. The talking stage, when you're getting to know someone but aren't exclusive, can last from several weeks to two months. If you're both shy and don't want to commit, the talking stage can last longer. On the other hand, if you're bold, you might go from match to makeout session in 24 hours or less. Psychologists recommend waiting at least two months before asking someone to be exclusive with you, but you might decide to commit sooner than that. If you only text a few times a week, you might have to wait longer, while if you're together 24/7, you might move more quickly.

Some say that you should generally know if you are compatible with someone within 3-6 months. Others say that after 3 months, the honeymoon phase wears off and you can see what you are truly working with. 

According to the “three-month rule” of dating, it's enough time to get a true sense of a person you're dating. If both people are self-aware, authentic, and open with each other, they will quickly know enough about each other to know with a high level of accuracy if the relationship can work or not.’

I used to love this and really believed that you could learn quite a bit about a person in a three month time period (if they were honest with you). That’s the key phrase, BOTH parties have to be honest. It doesn’t work if one person is trying to be open and the other has a completely hidden identity and past that the other knows nothing about until it catches up to him.

I’m not going to go into details because I do still respect his privacy to an extent. I’ve had my fair share of bad dates and bad relationships and crazy stories of men I’ve talked to but the one that definitely takes the cake is the one that has changed my view on love and life and people in general. I’ve been lied to in my past, sure, but I knew it and I caught it because he wasn’t good at it.

It’s a completely different and shocking feeling when you find out you’ve been lied to for 3 months by a man that you thought you knew and thought cared about you. It’s amazing how well some people can pull off being a completely different person.

This man unfortunately pulled the cynical and skeptical side of me back out and I don’t trust anyone any longer and I absolutely HATE that feeling. I’ve always been a “the world is generally good” kind of person.

WRONG! Not anymore! Ironically, as I’m writing this, I’m supposed to be on a date. That didn’t pan out either. If God is making me hold out for that special guy, that guy better be more than incredible at this point. 😂 But, as my friend Ashley likes to point out to me, “the man with no thighs found love so you can too because you have two thighs.” Thanks Ash, you always know how to cheer me up! 😜

So, in conclusion, how do I meet people organically again? Does anyone else besides me start off a conversation honestly? If you’re reading this and you have a friend, or a friend of a friend that you think I might hit it off with, you know how to reach me. (That was a joke. Or was it? 🤷🏼‍♀️😜)